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The Love We Mistake for Love

Why so much of what we call love is actually a story about ourselves, and how contemplative practice can help us tell a truer one.

"The first time I understood what the traditions meant by attachment, I was sitting in an NHS canteen at 2am, and realising that everything I called love, that evening, was a story about me."

The love that asks and the love that sees are not the same thing.

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